Shalom beloveds
Nicole is such a lovely person, I always enjoy her company. We met many years ago through work and have been in touch ever since. I am always inspired by her resilience, her strength, her obedience and her passion for the Lord. Her whole life is one big amazing testimony that leaves you awestruck. I am abundantly blessed and honoured to know her and be a part of her life. I was so excited to share her story with you, because she is a woman of valour through and through. Let’s read more below:
Please tell the readers a bit of who you are?
My name is Nicole Cupido I am a 36 year old child of God, born and raised in Cape Town. I come from a large family, the youngest of seven to be exact. By profession, I am an Oral Hygienist. I’ve been in the profession for 11 years. Socially I enjoy being outdoors, anything that helps to calm the mind like hiking, running, picnics etc. I enjoy reading, spending time with good like-minded people, visiting new places and I love eating good food.
Can you please tell the readers about your journey of singleness: what led you to becoming single and/or what made you choose to be single?
I was in a seven year relationship in my 20’s. We started off as good friends and eventually started a romantic relationship. We were great together, he encouraged me to go study and was very supportive during my journey as an “older student”. It was easy to fall in love and start making plans with him but after a few years we grew apart, we were growing into different versions of ourselves, and those versions didn’t match
anymore. Eventually we ended our relationship. In the beginning it was hard getting used to being on my own again. I missed the life I had with my ex, the idea of always having that person round, a companion to do things with. I had to fill that void because I hated feeling that emptiness. At that point in my life the only way I knew how to fill that void was by distracting myself with all the wrong things, I started partying and drinking too much. Getting involved with guys that I knew were wrong for me, but it was all in the name of fun. After 2/3 years of this lifestyle, I felt worse and knew I needed to make changes in my life. I felt emptier than I did at the start of the breakup. Growing up in a Christian home, I already had the Christian foundation I just wasn’t living a Christ like life but I knew the power of God and what He is capable of doing so instead of being so consumed with this breakup and how sad I felt all the time I got on my knees and poured my heart out to God, I asked for forgiveness and surrendered my life to Him. From that moment my journey of singleness was completely different, I accepted what happened, I realised that sometimes bad things need to happen to get you to wake up and make the necessary changes in your life. I felt more at peace and with that came a sense of clarity as to what I wanted for myself, what I need to work on so I can be a better version of myself. Now it’s been almost 7 years of being single, my relationship with God has been strengthened, I’m more active in my church, I’ve started my own mobile oral hygiene service business, I have been blessed so much and I can only thank God for all of it.
Give the readers 5-10 things each that you like or dislike about being single?
Likes:
● I don’t have to check in with anyone.
● I can focus on myself and my needs.
● Not having to deal with unnecessary “drama” or arguments.
● Doing the things, I enjoy doing, when I wanted and with who I wanted.
● Having alone time so I can spend time with God
Dislikes:
● I think the only thing I dislike about being single is that it gets lonely sometimes, especially when all your friends and family are married or in relationships, it just reminds you of what you want or miss.
What advice do you have for singles?
I don’t really have much advice to give but what helped me see the good in my singleness was to keep my focus on God, I had all the time and space in my life for Him. I was able to give Him all the attention and devotion He deserves. So, my advice would be to keep your eyes on God and don’t worry about the fact that you’re still single, He will take care of you.
Please share a prayer for those n the single season?
I have a bible verse I would like to share, it’s my go to verse whenever I’m feeling down or discouraged: Ps. 16:8 “I have set the Lord always before me: Because He is at my right hand, I shall not be moved.”
Thank you for reading, till next time…
Peace and blessings in Yeshua!
